Beth
01-24-2007, 01:43 AM
My goal in 2007 is to be a better mother and wife, how do i go about achieving that goal?
Hi MommaSassy! Thanks for your question.
What does “better” mean? Does it mean spending more time with your husband and children? Does it mean being more present in your dealings with them?
I have two suggestions for you.
First, I believe that in order to be “better” in your relationships with others, you first need to have a stronger relationship with your self and your soul. Women, especially mothers, are always giving of themselves…to the point that they are totally depleted and have nothing left to give to others. Take the focus off your family and put the focus on you first. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and ask your soul what it is that you need to replenish yourself. Then act on whatever it is you need to do.
Second, I would define exactly what being a “better” wife and mother means to you and your family. I don’t like the word “better” because it implies that what you are doing today is not good. My suggestion is to have a family conference and ask them to help you define what “better” means. You need to come together and agree on what changes you would like to make in your lives as a family before you can make specific goals and action plans.
It will take some time but you’ll start to see that the way you interact with your family changes in a positive way.
Best of luck! I hope this was helpful and I look forward to your feedback. Of course, I am always available to explore this question further in individual coaching if you are interested.
Blessings,
Beth
“Coaching for your Soul”
Hi MommaSassy! Thanks for your question.
What does “better” mean? Does it mean spending more time with your husband and children? Does it mean being more present in your dealings with them?
I have two suggestions for you.
First, I believe that in order to be “better” in your relationships with others, you first need to have a stronger relationship with your self and your soul. Women, especially mothers, are always giving of themselves…to the point that they are totally depleted and have nothing left to give to others. Take the focus off your family and put the focus on you first. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and ask your soul what it is that you need to replenish yourself. Then act on whatever it is you need to do.
Second, I would define exactly what being a “better” wife and mother means to you and your family. I don’t like the word “better” because it implies that what you are doing today is not good. My suggestion is to have a family conference and ask them to help you define what “better” means. You need to come together and agree on what changes you would like to make in your lives as a family before you can make specific goals and action plans.
It will take some time but you’ll start to see that the way you interact with your family changes in a positive way.
Best of luck! I hope this was helpful and I look forward to your feedback. Of course, I am always available to explore this question further in individual coaching if you are interested.
Blessings,
Beth
“Coaching for your Soul”