CarolynB
02-18-2007, 08:12 AM
CarolynB
Next week’s affirmation ... will be:
I see other people as they are now.
Theresa W
yes?
CarolynB
Very powerful affirmation ...
It’s too easy for us to let history cover our perceptions of people
because people can and do change
Theresa W
So Why did we come into this chat room asks the new kid?
LoriM
I get it...
CarolynB
And now, for tonight’s topic
Theresa W
Yes I di that with my students. thanks
CarolynB
Because it’s time for a formal chat on Manifesting and Affirmations, lol
Theresa W
Awesome
CarolynB
9:30 ET on Saturdays
Tonight’s topic is fear
Theresa W
This girl used to be full of it
fear that is
Laura
lol
CarolynB
There are a lot of synonyms for fear
Fear – terror – dread – horror – fright – panic – alarm – trepidation – apprehension – worry – concern – anxiety – nightmare – phobia – be afraid of – be terrified of – be scared of – be frightened of – worry about – be anxious – panic about – be alarmed about
Theresa W
And
CarolynB
I’d also like to review 3 definitions of fear
- an unpleasant feeling of apprehension or distress caused by the presence or anticipation of danger
- a concern about something that threatens to bring bad news or results
- awe or reverence, especially toward God
it’s interesting that fear can mean things that are diametrically different
Theresa W
Or what about the ones you were born with
CarolynB
Fear can prevent us from doing things that we need to do
Fear can also cause us to do things we should not do
The topic of fear and the Law of Affirmation has been the subject of several discussions I’ve had this week with different board members
and I know Laura has a good story to share with us about this
Laura?
Laura
oh...yeah..
CarolynB
lol
Laura
I wanted to give an example from my life...
for something very small
to take a small step toward....
using the law of attraction in our lives.
especially if someone is a bit
apprehensive about it...
because it is such a small step...
ok...
A while back I was in a place in my life where everything just seemed completely out of whack. It was tough to think positively about anything. (When in fact there was plenty to be grateful for. I just couldn’t see the forest for the trees.)
I hadn’t heard much about the Law of Attraction, Ask and It Is Given, etc. Yet one really hectic, rushed morning I thought to myself, “My God, there has to be something to be happy about! What am I grateful for?”
This is going to sound insignificant or too simple. But I said to myself as I made a cup of tea, “I really enjoy having a cup of tea in the morning.” That quiet ten minutes spent savoring a cup of tea was the best thing I could think of at the time.
So I decided to make that time extra special. I stopped heating a mug of water in the microwave every morning. Instead I pulled out the tea kettle that I love and my favorite cup. And as I would savor my morning tea, I would think to myself…”I’m so grateful for this cup of tea.”
Weeks went by and I continued the practice. Never sharing it with anyone. Just enjoying it. Then one day I got a package in the mail. Someone I knew signed me up for a tea of the month club! Now I have more tea than I can drink.
But I am so grateful. Because in the process I have learned to be grateful for everything….even the smallest things
LoriM
Cool!
Laura
And I have to say that it is true that where you put your attention, you attract more of the same into your life. And in the most unexpected ways too!
CarolynB
Awesome!
Leighski
i agree
Theresa W
Im crying no kidding. the spirit has me
I know I attracted you guys tonight
CarolynB
That is a very good example of what can happen ... the most unexpected things.
(((Theresa)))
Paula Mae
:kiss:
Theresa W
I needed it a hug back
Laura
awwww
CarolynB
One of the things I find most interesting about the law of attraction is how naturally it comes to children
Theresa W
Oh I get it ((((((((carolyn)))))
DUH!
CarolynB
lol ... you catch on quick!
Laura
yes!
Theresa W
Some of us are a little slow
Laura
lol
Theresa W
Im not used to being withgreat women
CarolynB
They don’t have the same expectations of life that we cynical, jaded adults do
and they manifest wonderful things into their lives all the time
Laura
yes
CarolynB
I know Lori’s son Nick manifested something really, really wonderful
Lori?
LoriM
Thanks! Yes he did...
Theresa W
My Mikayla always bring things into my life
LoriM
Nick has always had a problem with kids picking on him at school...
We cuddled up together to watch a movie together one evening
and the movie that we put in was.... The secret...
Leighski
hugs for nick
LoriM
It was neat to see his reaction as he watched it with me..
Laura
:up:
Theresa W
Great One....Pay it Forward too
LoriM
he got this excited look on his face and said “ Momma. I have done that!”
I asked him what he meant and he told me about a child in his gym class that ALWAYS picked on him
He said that he had been kind of escaping the last few weeks from his taunting and I asked him how.
He said that he had closed his eyes and felt and imagined what it would be like to go into gym and not have this child pick on him.
He said that some days that was the only way he could get a way from him...
Then.... on day he walked in and the kid had been transfered out of the class soon after He started Imagining this.
CarolynB
:up:
Leighski
woohoo
CarolynB
Awesome!
Paula Mae
Hurray!
LoriM
Nick was very excited to have the acknowelgement that it worked.
Laura
so cool!
CarolynB
YES!
Leighski
I bet his mark went up aswell
CarolynB
One of the keys ... and Nick didn’t know anything about the Law of Attraction
LoriM
yep!
Theresa W
I try to teach this to my students everyday, your Nick is just ahead of the game...bless him
CarolynB
was that he SAW and FELT what it would be like not to have the kid in his class
he used his imagination to very good effect
and as he SAW and FELT this, his vibrational energy went out into the univers
universe
Laura
yes
CarolynB
and the universe saw and felt the energy
and made it happen
instead of worrying about the bully
he experience life without the bully
instead of FEARING the bully
he removed the bully from his sphere of living
for him, it was the only way to get through the day
to imagine life w/o the bully
Theresa W
May I use Nick’s experience for my students????
LoriM
He has used it often now... and it has really made a big difference for him just in the way he goes about his days.
Of cours Thresea
CarolynB
so while he didn’t know he was employing the Law of Attraction he was
Many people may wonder why someone would be fearful of mindfully engaging in the employment of the Law of Attraction. Keep in mind, since it is a universal law … it is something we engage in, whether we’re mindful of it or not.
Laura
yes
LoriM
So how do you get past that barrier?
CarolynB
But I can certainly understand that fear. One of the things we tend to loathe is change, and by mindfully engaging in the Law of Attraction, we will, most definitely, bring change into our life. And, at first, it may seem that those changes are bad … overwhelming even.
. Earlier this week, I came across a thread in Colette Baron Reid’s forum (www.colettebaronreid.com) that spoke to how, for some people, their world seems to fall apart when they begin to mindfully employ the Law of Attraction.
Laura
oh yes!
CarolynB
Here is the original post and then Colette’s response.
Hi All, Recently, I have been reading the book, “Ask and it is given” and noticed that my world is falling apart. For example, I have little money and bills are falling behind. I have listened to colette’s show and she had mentioned that these negative incidents do happen once a person has used the law of attraction. Am I attracting these experiences into my life?Has anyone ever had similar experiences? Need some similar stories, so I won’t feel as alone. Thanks,Trish
Well , after reading your posts this morning I thought I should add my story too. Many years ago when I started studying the power of affirmations and manifesting I found myself temporarily worse off than ever! Everything possible went wrong. Or that’s how I saw it. I was very confused and despondent. I read a lot of Catherine Ponder in those days and i came across a passage where she talks about this phase which she says is essential to the new .
What i have come to realize is the crap has got to go first, which means it comes to the surface to be released. Things can and often do get worse before they get better -- really it’s a test of faith . Or like a wound that needs cleaning before healing. One by one i had to look at my part in the things that weren’t working and turn them over to God. Patience has never been my strong suit. i had to learn the hard way.
A lot of times as i look back I realized the direction i was pushing towards wasnt the way I was supposed to be going and stubborn as I was it took me a lot of banging my head against the wall to finally go with the flow that Spirit was pushing me towards.
I have since learned 2 important things. Suffering is part of life but doesn’t have to make us victims. It’s a call for faith and spiritual fortitude and many times a sign for cleansing and renewal. the second is .. this too shall pass. Simply put no experience lasts forever and my faith has been tested so often as my ego demands its share of whatever it thinks it deserves. i have a third thing now that I think about it .. whenever i am feeling down i look for someone less fortunate than me to
reach out to and help anyway i can .... i always feel better.
A good book to read when this is going on is an old book called Positive Imaging by Norman Vincent Peale. It was given to me by a very special woman dying of cancer. She told me it kept her spirits up that even though she had this illness , she knew she could envision it all a different way and find peace in a new perception.
At the time i was failing at my music career , which was a blessing as I was led to my intuitive work because of that failure. Her dying wish was that I sing at her funeral. It was the most extraordinary loss for me as she was so important to me but within it a great gift as well and put things in perspective for me. anyway I am rambling.
It’s 630 am now and in an hour I leave for the airport this morning for the first leg of Sylvia’s tour and I am a little nervous as I want to do the best I can for everybody but still I am a bit daunted. It isnt a science -- doing readings on stage is quite the wild experience because I really have to turn myself over to God in a BIG WAY and be present to as many people as I can and give them a message with integrity and compassion.
Just know I am here because life made it so hard for me I had to follow this path. I am very grateful now for all the hardship and tears. so if you’re reading this and going through hard times trust that the universe has a plan for you . Remember you are not alone!!
wish me luck everybody so much love and gratitude to all of you love, Colette
I’m not sure I agree entirely with Colette that is kind of reaction will happen with everyone, but I do believe it happens often enough that people should be aware of the possibility that things will get worse before they get better.
Laura
Very powerful
CarolynB
What do you think?
Laura
I agree with what Colette wrote...
Paula Mae
Well the possibility of losing my job...
Laura
It makes sense...
LoriM
Like for me... I am undergoing another big change in my life again.... reading POS has made me yet again re-evaluate things ... and I know now that I haven’t been being true to my soul’s passion... but I am TERRIFIED of losing the job I hate because of the security it gives. I have two kids... a disabled husband who depends on me and I HAVE to put them first... So now I am freaked out by even thinking of changing jobs... but I am thinking about it anyway.
Paula Mae
made me look harder at another opportunity that I would have otherwise dismissed
LoriM
SO.... does that mean it’s doomed to happen? lol
CarolynB
LOL
hmmm good question
LoriM
It’s hard to let go of that control
Leighski
absolutely
CarolynB
but Laura, let me ask you ... what negative thing happened when you manifested your pleasant tea time?
Leighski
very hard indeed
Laura
ummm..a caffeine headache?
CarolynB
lol
truly?
Leighski
lol
Paula Mae
lots of tea lol
Laura
no...just kidding.
lol
nothing..BUT
the more at stake...
CarolynB
yes!
Laura
the harder it might be
before things get better
CarolynB
BUT ... isn’t that where fear comes in?
Leighski
yup
CarolynB
the bigger the stakes, the more fear of failure
Laura
yes
LoriM
It is what keeps me stuck. the fear.
Leighski
fear of the unknown
Laura
yes..the unknown.
CarolynB
and the more effort it takes to make you energy vibrations in alignment with your hopes, wishes and dreams
but I don’t think it really is the unknown...
Paula Mae
its change
CarolynB
because if you imagine it, you create it and you know what it will be/look/feel like
Laura
yes!
CarolynB
yes ... it is change
LoriM
I guess it depends on what you are manifesting and how you are directing that energy.
CarolynB
yes ...
This is from http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Doyle14.html (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Doyle14.html)
Do You Make These “Law of Attraction” Blunders? - By Bob Doyle 1. Believing that “Positive Thinking” is enough to attract what you want.
The reality is that many people use various forms of positive thinking on a conscious level (such as affirmations), only to cancel out those thoughts on a subconscious level
For example, telling yourself “I am lean, healthy, and energetic” when the mirror says something different, usually results in your subconscious saying, “No you’re not!!”. Further, this subconscious rebuttal is generally highly charged with emotion, and thus a very powerful attractor.
Therefore, if left unchecked, the use of affirmations can give you a very strong OPPOSITE result of those things you are affirming, because at a much stronger level of conviction, you are canceling the positive message with a negative one.
fear again ...
fear that you’re lying to yourself
Theresa W
I lost my marriage of 35 years, he’s bipolar, angry i lost my kids because they wereangry we split. I hate my job and the unbelievable stress it causes manifests in the physical but now things are changing for the better, Im happy regardlessof what happens because of my perception and loss of fear.
CarolynB
(((Theresa)))
Theresa W
and the affirmations did that
CarolynB
2. Asking yourself, “Well, where is it?” People ARE impatient. When they learn about the Law of Attraction, they often have high hopes that they will simply make their lists of desires, cut out pictures, or in some other way design their reality, and then after a couple of days, weeks, or even months, they’re looking around saying, “Well?? Where is it??”.
Theresa W
Thank you Laura
CarolynB
The problem isn’t that the Universe can’t deliver quickly. The problem is that you were never REALLY vibrating in a place of trust that what your desires is yours. You are more “testing the theory”, then becoming impatient when the Universe doesn’t deliver on your time schedule.
What you may not realize realize is that from the beginning of the process, there has been resistance. There has been a lack of “allowing” in terms of how and when your desire will be fulfilled, which shows itself through your expression of impatience. Which leads to mistake number 3:
LoriM
same here... thought I was hearing things
CarolynB
whew!
3. Determining ahead of time, HOW and WHEN you will attract what you want. The Law of Attraction works because and when you allow it to. The nature of the Universe is infinite. Our conscious minds are not. When we have a desire, we very often tend to “figure out” how the Universe is going to deliver - be it through our jobs, the lottery, or some other source in particular.
Leighski
lol
CarolynB
When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite (literally) number of other ways your desire can be attracted.
4. Allowing your emotions to be led by “external evidence”. This is where people tend to give up. Because their experience of reality is different than what they are trying to attract, they allow themselves to feel frustrated, which of course, only acts to attract more of what will frustrate them.
This all starts because there is, on some level, a basic lack of trust that the Law of Attraction actually has scientific basis. Because after all, if you have TOTAL trust/faith, then your vibration will reflect that and two things will happen: 1) Your desire will come to you as quickly as possible,
and 2) You literally won’t give external reality a second thought, because you’ll realize that what you’re looking at now is simply a result of what you’ve been attracting to that point, and that change is on the way provided you hold your NEW vibration consistently.
5. Not taking care of your limiting beliefs that run at a deeper level. As mentioned earlier, you have a lifetime of limiting beliefs that have helped to create the reality that you are now trying to change. You have manifested everything around you based on these beliefs, and the feelings associated with those beliefs.
These beliefs run so deep, that you hardly consider them “beliefs”. They occur to you as just “how things are”. Further, these beliefs have very specific emotions attached to them, and chances are you can FEEL these emotions on some level every time one of these beliefs shows themselves.
Theresa W
true
CarolynB
How will this show up? Let’s suppose you’re wanting to manifest a large amount of money. When you think about that, there might be a certain emotion that immediately comes up for you. This might be associated with a thought like, “I’ll never be able to attract that. It’s too much.”. This might be connected to a feeling that you don’t DESERVE that amount, or you might feel frustrated with the “bigness” of it.
LoriM
It’s kind of like the choice I had to make after my initial experience that started me on this journey...I had no choice but to believe and when I did things came fast and furious
CarolynB
This gets back to the point Laura was making
the magnitude of the change you’re seeking
Yes, Lori!
excellent point
Either way, these negative emotions are the very energy that is REPELLING what you want! When you learn to RELEASE those emotions, you clear the way for the Universe to deliver what you desire, whatever it is. But until and unless you eliminate the resistance, you will not be in vibrational alignment with what you desire, and thus you can NOT experience it!
So sometimes, we may need to really examine what it is we want
versus what it is we think we want
versus what it is we’re actually manifesting
and if those aren’t all exactly the same
we’ll have a mess on our hands, lol
I know Lori was able to manifest a big change in her office situation recently ...
Lori?
LoriM
I had a lady that I worked with that just gave me the creeps. She exuded negativity. She was a name dropper, she was condesending and she really made my skin crawl everytime I had to be in the same room with her. It was bad.
Laura
eww
LoriM
She changed the whole atmosphere of the office when she was there.
I really started to dread going in some days
After watching the secret I decided to try some of what they suggested...and a little something on my own.
First I decided if I made an effort to change the way I felt about her it couldn’t hurt... I started to kill her with kindness even when she was rude to me...
Leighski
lol
LoriM
little by little her attitude changed a bit...
I then started to imagine what the office would be like if she just weren’t there.
Theresa W
atta girl kill em with kindness
LoriM
we got along MUCH better as a group w/o her...
She had pretty muched turned around and I noticed that the negativity was gone...
and...
w/in two weeks... she had given her resignation w/o any notice...
Laura
wow
CarolynB
:up:
Theresa W
manifestig miracles
LoriM
It wasn’t till I let go of the way I felt about her... that she left.
CarolynB
ah...
another key to manifesting
letting go
Leighski
letting go
thats the hard part
LoriM
I wished it. I felt it. and I let it go.
CarolynB
you lost your FEAR of it
Theresa W
letting go theresa
LoriM
True! I hadn’t thought of that but you are right! lol
CarolynB
hmmm I have way more info than we have time, lol
so I’ll give you a choice
Theresa W
But were you aware you lost your fear before ....or after?
CarolynB
LOL, Lori
Laura
lol
LoriM
Part 2?
CarolynB
hmmm only problem is that I can’t host the chat next week, lol
LoriM
I didn’t realize it was fear... till just now! lol
CarolynB
I’ll be um somewhere else
CarolynB
lol
Laura
lol...with JH
CarolynB
yes, with JH
LoriM
pffffffffft
CarolynB
lol
Paula Mae
how about we practice for two weeks and then come back and share
Laura
We can do it on Friday....
CarolynB
ooo
Laura
ooooo....great idea!!!
Theresa W
IM JEALOUS
CarolynB
there’s an idea
LoriM
that’s a great Idea!
CarolynB
but hmmm what about Amy?
Paula Mae
I am the idea person lol
Leighski
biAwww we all are
CarolynB
I kow you have two puters
but Amy makes 3
lol
Laura
oh yeah..besides..
we don’t know when she’s getting into Boston
I’ll be picking her up.
CarolynB
mmm true ...
Laura
Shall we do Paula’s idea?
CarolynB
okay ... we can come back in 2 weeks though ... I wanted to talk a little bit about 2 of the stories on the follow-up to THE SECRET on Oprah
Paula Mae
we can try something small like the tea thing lol
CarolynB
last week, but it can wait a couple of weeks or more
Leighski
thanks Carolyn you made so much sense you know
CarolynB
and I have some more stuff on fears
oh, good, Leigh ... I’m very happy to hear it
Spirit is kind to me
even in my drug haze, lol
Laura
awesome job Carolyn...
Leighski
:kiss:
Laura
:up:
Paula Mae
ya ditto
LoriM
Great job!
Laura
imagine what she can do drug free!
tee hee!!!
CarolynB
LOL
LoriM
Watch out world!
Theresa W
Hey Guys. My sister just emailedme about the Secret. Think Im getting a messege?
Laura
lol
LoriM
Oh...
CarolynB
cool ... okay you all have your assignment for 2 weeks from tonight
Leighski
lol
LoriM
I have to tell you a quicky..
Laura
k
LoriM
I was thinking about the secret...
CarolynB
manifest a little thing and get back to us
LoriM
and I have been readiong POs
CarolynB
Power of the Soul
LoriM
and I decided to start writing again...
CarolynB
oooo
LoriM
we were at B&N
Theresa W
Great Book Just finished it
LoriM
and I had just said to someone on the phone
that I hoped I could make it enjoyable and readable
when I bumped into the book marks...
one fell off and I picked it up and read it...
it said “ Believe in the reality of your dreams” by Roosevelt.
CarolynB
ooo I hope you bought it!
awesome!
LoriM
I bought the book mark
LoriM
lol
Laura
lol
Theresa W
No she ripped it of it was a bookmark
can’t spell ....off
Leighski
its the little things that keep us going lol
LoriM
lol
Laura
lol
CarolynB
yes ...
LoriM
It was just a cool litte synchronicity.
Paula Mae
yes it was lol
CarolynB
and the little things become big things when we let them
both good and bad
lol
Leighski
love those
Paula Mae
I love those kind
CarolynB
very cool synchronicity
Theresa W
Thank you for a POWERFUL evening...Lets talk again. From the new kid
CarolynB
Thank you all so much for coming tonight
and sharing
LoriM
Awsome Carolyn! Thanks so much!
Paula Mae
thanks for doing it
CarolynB
We will ... next week’s chat is cancelled but we’ll be here again in 2 weeks
Paula Mae
with our stories
CarolynB
anytime ... I enjoy researching and learning for myself
sharing is the bonus :)
LoriM
We will meet you here! Same place... same bat time! :)
Next week’s affirmation ... will be:
I see other people as they are now.
Theresa W
yes?
CarolynB
Very powerful affirmation ...
It’s too easy for us to let history cover our perceptions of people
because people can and do change
Theresa W
So Why did we come into this chat room asks the new kid?
LoriM
I get it...
CarolynB
And now, for tonight’s topic
Theresa W
Yes I di that with my students. thanks
CarolynB
Because it’s time for a formal chat on Manifesting and Affirmations, lol
Theresa W
Awesome
CarolynB
9:30 ET on Saturdays
Tonight’s topic is fear
Theresa W
This girl used to be full of it
fear that is
Laura
lol
CarolynB
There are a lot of synonyms for fear
Fear – terror – dread – horror – fright – panic – alarm – trepidation – apprehension – worry – concern – anxiety – nightmare – phobia – be afraid of – be terrified of – be scared of – be frightened of – worry about – be anxious – panic about – be alarmed about
Theresa W
And
CarolynB
I’d also like to review 3 definitions of fear
- an unpleasant feeling of apprehension or distress caused by the presence or anticipation of danger
- a concern about something that threatens to bring bad news or results
- awe or reverence, especially toward God
it’s interesting that fear can mean things that are diametrically different
Theresa W
Or what about the ones you were born with
CarolynB
Fear can prevent us from doing things that we need to do
Fear can also cause us to do things we should not do
The topic of fear and the Law of Affirmation has been the subject of several discussions I’ve had this week with different board members
and I know Laura has a good story to share with us about this
Laura?
Laura
oh...yeah..
CarolynB
lol
Laura
I wanted to give an example from my life...
for something very small
to take a small step toward....
using the law of attraction in our lives.
especially if someone is a bit
apprehensive about it...
because it is such a small step...
ok...
A while back I was in a place in my life where everything just seemed completely out of whack. It was tough to think positively about anything. (When in fact there was plenty to be grateful for. I just couldn’t see the forest for the trees.)
I hadn’t heard much about the Law of Attraction, Ask and It Is Given, etc. Yet one really hectic, rushed morning I thought to myself, “My God, there has to be something to be happy about! What am I grateful for?”
This is going to sound insignificant or too simple. But I said to myself as I made a cup of tea, “I really enjoy having a cup of tea in the morning.” That quiet ten minutes spent savoring a cup of tea was the best thing I could think of at the time.
So I decided to make that time extra special. I stopped heating a mug of water in the microwave every morning. Instead I pulled out the tea kettle that I love and my favorite cup. And as I would savor my morning tea, I would think to myself…”I’m so grateful for this cup of tea.”
Weeks went by and I continued the practice. Never sharing it with anyone. Just enjoying it. Then one day I got a package in the mail. Someone I knew signed me up for a tea of the month club! Now I have more tea than I can drink.
But I am so grateful. Because in the process I have learned to be grateful for everything….even the smallest things
LoriM
Cool!
Laura
And I have to say that it is true that where you put your attention, you attract more of the same into your life. And in the most unexpected ways too!
CarolynB
Awesome!
Leighski
i agree
Theresa W
Im crying no kidding. the spirit has me
I know I attracted you guys tonight
CarolynB
That is a very good example of what can happen ... the most unexpected things.
(((Theresa)))
Paula Mae
:kiss:
Theresa W
I needed it a hug back
Laura
awwww
CarolynB
One of the things I find most interesting about the law of attraction is how naturally it comes to children
Theresa W
Oh I get it ((((((((carolyn)))))
DUH!
CarolynB
lol ... you catch on quick!
Laura
yes!
Theresa W
Some of us are a little slow
Laura
lol
Theresa W
Im not used to being withgreat women
CarolynB
They don’t have the same expectations of life that we cynical, jaded adults do
and they manifest wonderful things into their lives all the time
Laura
yes
CarolynB
I know Lori’s son Nick manifested something really, really wonderful
Lori?
LoriM
Thanks! Yes he did...
Theresa W
My Mikayla always bring things into my life
LoriM
Nick has always had a problem with kids picking on him at school...
We cuddled up together to watch a movie together one evening
and the movie that we put in was.... The secret...
Leighski
hugs for nick
LoriM
It was neat to see his reaction as he watched it with me..
Laura
:up:
Theresa W
Great One....Pay it Forward too
LoriM
he got this excited look on his face and said “ Momma. I have done that!”
I asked him what he meant and he told me about a child in his gym class that ALWAYS picked on him
He said that he had been kind of escaping the last few weeks from his taunting and I asked him how.
He said that he had closed his eyes and felt and imagined what it would be like to go into gym and not have this child pick on him.
He said that some days that was the only way he could get a way from him...
Then.... on day he walked in and the kid had been transfered out of the class soon after He started Imagining this.
CarolynB
:up:
Leighski
woohoo
CarolynB
Awesome!
Paula Mae
Hurray!
LoriM
Nick was very excited to have the acknowelgement that it worked.
Laura
so cool!
CarolynB
YES!
Leighski
I bet his mark went up aswell
CarolynB
One of the keys ... and Nick didn’t know anything about the Law of Attraction
LoriM
yep!
Theresa W
I try to teach this to my students everyday, your Nick is just ahead of the game...bless him
CarolynB
was that he SAW and FELT what it would be like not to have the kid in his class
he used his imagination to very good effect
and as he SAW and FELT this, his vibrational energy went out into the univers
universe
Laura
yes
CarolynB
and the universe saw and felt the energy
and made it happen
instead of worrying about the bully
he experience life without the bully
instead of FEARING the bully
he removed the bully from his sphere of living
for him, it was the only way to get through the day
to imagine life w/o the bully
Theresa W
May I use Nick’s experience for my students????
LoriM
He has used it often now... and it has really made a big difference for him just in the way he goes about his days.
Of cours Thresea
CarolynB
so while he didn’t know he was employing the Law of Attraction he was
Many people may wonder why someone would be fearful of mindfully engaging in the employment of the Law of Attraction. Keep in mind, since it is a universal law … it is something we engage in, whether we’re mindful of it or not.
Laura
yes
LoriM
So how do you get past that barrier?
CarolynB
But I can certainly understand that fear. One of the things we tend to loathe is change, and by mindfully engaging in the Law of Attraction, we will, most definitely, bring change into our life. And, at first, it may seem that those changes are bad … overwhelming even.
. Earlier this week, I came across a thread in Colette Baron Reid’s forum (www.colettebaronreid.com) that spoke to how, for some people, their world seems to fall apart when they begin to mindfully employ the Law of Attraction.
Laura
oh yes!
CarolynB
Here is the original post and then Colette’s response.
Hi All, Recently, I have been reading the book, “Ask and it is given” and noticed that my world is falling apart. For example, I have little money and bills are falling behind. I have listened to colette’s show and she had mentioned that these negative incidents do happen once a person has used the law of attraction. Am I attracting these experiences into my life?Has anyone ever had similar experiences? Need some similar stories, so I won’t feel as alone. Thanks,Trish
Well , after reading your posts this morning I thought I should add my story too. Many years ago when I started studying the power of affirmations and manifesting I found myself temporarily worse off than ever! Everything possible went wrong. Or that’s how I saw it. I was very confused and despondent. I read a lot of Catherine Ponder in those days and i came across a passage where she talks about this phase which she says is essential to the new .
What i have come to realize is the crap has got to go first, which means it comes to the surface to be released. Things can and often do get worse before they get better -- really it’s a test of faith . Or like a wound that needs cleaning before healing. One by one i had to look at my part in the things that weren’t working and turn them over to God. Patience has never been my strong suit. i had to learn the hard way.
A lot of times as i look back I realized the direction i was pushing towards wasnt the way I was supposed to be going and stubborn as I was it took me a lot of banging my head against the wall to finally go with the flow that Spirit was pushing me towards.
I have since learned 2 important things. Suffering is part of life but doesn’t have to make us victims. It’s a call for faith and spiritual fortitude and many times a sign for cleansing and renewal. the second is .. this too shall pass. Simply put no experience lasts forever and my faith has been tested so often as my ego demands its share of whatever it thinks it deserves. i have a third thing now that I think about it .. whenever i am feeling down i look for someone less fortunate than me to
reach out to and help anyway i can .... i always feel better.
A good book to read when this is going on is an old book called Positive Imaging by Norman Vincent Peale. It was given to me by a very special woman dying of cancer. She told me it kept her spirits up that even though she had this illness , she knew she could envision it all a different way and find peace in a new perception.
At the time i was failing at my music career , which was a blessing as I was led to my intuitive work because of that failure. Her dying wish was that I sing at her funeral. It was the most extraordinary loss for me as she was so important to me but within it a great gift as well and put things in perspective for me. anyway I am rambling.
It’s 630 am now and in an hour I leave for the airport this morning for the first leg of Sylvia’s tour and I am a little nervous as I want to do the best I can for everybody but still I am a bit daunted. It isnt a science -- doing readings on stage is quite the wild experience because I really have to turn myself over to God in a BIG WAY and be present to as many people as I can and give them a message with integrity and compassion.
Just know I am here because life made it so hard for me I had to follow this path. I am very grateful now for all the hardship and tears. so if you’re reading this and going through hard times trust that the universe has a plan for you . Remember you are not alone!!
wish me luck everybody so much love and gratitude to all of you love, Colette
I’m not sure I agree entirely with Colette that is kind of reaction will happen with everyone, but I do believe it happens often enough that people should be aware of the possibility that things will get worse before they get better.
Laura
Very powerful
CarolynB
What do you think?
Laura
I agree with what Colette wrote...
Paula Mae
Well the possibility of losing my job...
Laura
It makes sense...
LoriM
Like for me... I am undergoing another big change in my life again.... reading POS has made me yet again re-evaluate things ... and I know now that I haven’t been being true to my soul’s passion... but I am TERRIFIED of losing the job I hate because of the security it gives. I have two kids... a disabled husband who depends on me and I HAVE to put them first... So now I am freaked out by even thinking of changing jobs... but I am thinking about it anyway.
Paula Mae
made me look harder at another opportunity that I would have otherwise dismissed
LoriM
SO.... does that mean it’s doomed to happen? lol
CarolynB
LOL
hmmm good question
LoriM
It’s hard to let go of that control
Leighski
absolutely
CarolynB
but Laura, let me ask you ... what negative thing happened when you manifested your pleasant tea time?
Leighski
very hard indeed
Laura
ummm..a caffeine headache?
CarolynB
lol
truly?
Leighski
lol
Paula Mae
lots of tea lol
Laura
no...just kidding.
lol
nothing..BUT
the more at stake...
CarolynB
yes!
Laura
the harder it might be
before things get better
CarolynB
BUT ... isn’t that where fear comes in?
Leighski
yup
CarolynB
the bigger the stakes, the more fear of failure
Laura
yes
LoriM
It is what keeps me stuck. the fear.
Leighski
fear of the unknown
Laura
yes..the unknown.
CarolynB
and the more effort it takes to make you energy vibrations in alignment with your hopes, wishes and dreams
but I don’t think it really is the unknown...
Paula Mae
its change
CarolynB
because if you imagine it, you create it and you know what it will be/look/feel like
Laura
yes!
CarolynB
yes ... it is change
LoriM
I guess it depends on what you are manifesting and how you are directing that energy.
CarolynB
yes ...
This is from http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Doyle14.html (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Doyle14.html)
Do You Make These “Law of Attraction” Blunders? - By Bob Doyle 1. Believing that “Positive Thinking” is enough to attract what you want.
The reality is that many people use various forms of positive thinking on a conscious level (such as affirmations), only to cancel out those thoughts on a subconscious level
For example, telling yourself “I am lean, healthy, and energetic” when the mirror says something different, usually results in your subconscious saying, “No you’re not!!”. Further, this subconscious rebuttal is generally highly charged with emotion, and thus a very powerful attractor.
Therefore, if left unchecked, the use of affirmations can give you a very strong OPPOSITE result of those things you are affirming, because at a much stronger level of conviction, you are canceling the positive message with a negative one.
fear again ...
fear that you’re lying to yourself
Theresa W
I lost my marriage of 35 years, he’s bipolar, angry i lost my kids because they wereangry we split. I hate my job and the unbelievable stress it causes manifests in the physical but now things are changing for the better, Im happy regardlessof what happens because of my perception and loss of fear.
CarolynB
(((Theresa)))
Theresa W
and the affirmations did that
CarolynB
2. Asking yourself, “Well, where is it?” People ARE impatient. When they learn about the Law of Attraction, they often have high hopes that they will simply make their lists of desires, cut out pictures, or in some other way design their reality, and then after a couple of days, weeks, or even months, they’re looking around saying, “Well?? Where is it??”.
Theresa W
Thank you Laura
CarolynB
The problem isn’t that the Universe can’t deliver quickly. The problem is that you were never REALLY vibrating in a place of trust that what your desires is yours. You are more “testing the theory”, then becoming impatient when the Universe doesn’t deliver on your time schedule.
What you may not realize realize is that from the beginning of the process, there has been resistance. There has been a lack of “allowing” in terms of how and when your desire will be fulfilled, which shows itself through your expression of impatience. Which leads to mistake number 3:
LoriM
same here... thought I was hearing things
CarolynB
whew!
3. Determining ahead of time, HOW and WHEN you will attract what you want. The Law of Attraction works because and when you allow it to. The nature of the Universe is infinite. Our conscious minds are not. When we have a desire, we very often tend to “figure out” how the Universe is going to deliver - be it through our jobs, the lottery, or some other source in particular.
Leighski
lol
CarolynB
When you attach yourself to one particular outcome, you are cutting off an infinite (literally) number of other ways your desire can be attracted.
4. Allowing your emotions to be led by “external evidence”. This is where people tend to give up. Because their experience of reality is different than what they are trying to attract, they allow themselves to feel frustrated, which of course, only acts to attract more of what will frustrate them.
This all starts because there is, on some level, a basic lack of trust that the Law of Attraction actually has scientific basis. Because after all, if you have TOTAL trust/faith, then your vibration will reflect that and two things will happen: 1) Your desire will come to you as quickly as possible,
and 2) You literally won’t give external reality a second thought, because you’ll realize that what you’re looking at now is simply a result of what you’ve been attracting to that point, and that change is on the way provided you hold your NEW vibration consistently.
5. Not taking care of your limiting beliefs that run at a deeper level. As mentioned earlier, you have a lifetime of limiting beliefs that have helped to create the reality that you are now trying to change. You have manifested everything around you based on these beliefs, and the feelings associated with those beliefs.
These beliefs run so deep, that you hardly consider them “beliefs”. They occur to you as just “how things are”. Further, these beliefs have very specific emotions attached to them, and chances are you can FEEL these emotions on some level every time one of these beliefs shows themselves.
Theresa W
true
CarolynB
How will this show up? Let’s suppose you’re wanting to manifest a large amount of money. When you think about that, there might be a certain emotion that immediately comes up for you. This might be associated with a thought like, “I’ll never be able to attract that. It’s too much.”. This might be connected to a feeling that you don’t DESERVE that amount, or you might feel frustrated with the “bigness” of it.
LoriM
It’s kind of like the choice I had to make after my initial experience that started me on this journey...I had no choice but to believe and when I did things came fast and furious
CarolynB
This gets back to the point Laura was making
the magnitude of the change you’re seeking
Yes, Lori!
excellent point
Either way, these negative emotions are the very energy that is REPELLING what you want! When you learn to RELEASE those emotions, you clear the way for the Universe to deliver what you desire, whatever it is. But until and unless you eliminate the resistance, you will not be in vibrational alignment with what you desire, and thus you can NOT experience it!
So sometimes, we may need to really examine what it is we want
versus what it is we think we want
versus what it is we’re actually manifesting
and if those aren’t all exactly the same
we’ll have a mess on our hands, lol
I know Lori was able to manifest a big change in her office situation recently ...
Lori?
LoriM
I had a lady that I worked with that just gave me the creeps. She exuded negativity. She was a name dropper, she was condesending and she really made my skin crawl everytime I had to be in the same room with her. It was bad.
Laura
eww
LoriM
She changed the whole atmosphere of the office when she was there.
I really started to dread going in some days
After watching the secret I decided to try some of what they suggested...and a little something on my own.
First I decided if I made an effort to change the way I felt about her it couldn’t hurt... I started to kill her with kindness even when she was rude to me...
Leighski
lol
LoriM
little by little her attitude changed a bit...
I then started to imagine what the office would be like if she just weren’t there.
Theresa W
atta girl kill em with kindness
LoriM
we got along MUCH better as a group w/o her...
She had pretty muched turned around and I noticed that the negativity was gone...
and...
w/in two weeks... she had given her resignation w/o any notice...
Laura
wow
CarolynB
:up:
Theresa W
manifestig miracles
LoriM
It wasn’t till I let go of the way I felt about her... that she left.
CarolynB
ah...
another key to manifesting
letting go
Leighski
letting go
thats the hard part
LoriM
I wished it. I felt it. and I let it go.
CarolynB
you lost your FEAR of it
Theresa W
letting go theresa
LoriM
True! I hadn’t thought of that but you are right! lol
CarolynB
hmmm I have way more info than we have time, lol
so I’ll give you a choice
Theresa W
But were you aware you lost your fear before ....or after?
CarolynB
LOL, Lori
Laura
lol
LoriM
Part 2?
CarolynB
hmmm only problem is that I can’t host the chat next week, lol
LoriM
I didn’t realize it was fear... till just now! lol
CarolynB
I’ll be um somewhere else
CarolynB
lol
Laura
lol...with JH
CarolynB
yes, with JH
LoriM
pffffffffft
CarolynB
lol
Paula Mae
how about we practice for two weeks and then come back and share
Laura
We can do it on Friday....
CarolynB
ooo
Laura
ooooo....great idea!!!
Theresa W
IM JEALOUS
CarolynB
there’s an idea
LoriM
that’s a great Idea!
CarolynB
but hmmm what about Amy?
Paula Mae
I am the idea person lol
Leighski
biAwww we all are
CarolynB
I kow you have two puters
but Amy makes 3
lol
Laura
oh yeah..besides..
we don’t know when she’s getting into Boston
I’ll be picking her up.
CarolynB
mmm true ...
Laura
Shall we do Paula’s idea?
CarolynB
okay ... we can come back in 2 weeks though ... I wanted to talk a little bit about 2 of the stories on the follow-up to THE SECRET on Oprah
Paula Mae
we can try something small like the tea thing lol
CarolynB
last week, but it can wait a couple of weeks or more
Leighski
thanks Carolyn you made so much sense you know
CarolynB
and I have some more stuff on fears
oh, good, Leigh ... I’m very happy to hear it
Spirit is kind to me
even in my drug haze, lol
Laura
awesome job Carolyn...
Leighski
:kiss:
Laura
:up:
Paula Mae
ya ditto
LoriM
Great job!
Laura
imagine what she can do drug free!
tee hee!!!
CarolynB
LOL
LoriM
Watch out world!
Theresa W
Hey Guys. My sister just emailedme about the Secret. Think Im getting a messege?
Laura
lol
LoriM
Oh...
CarolynB
cool ... okay you all have your assignment for 2 weeks from tonight
Leighski
lol
LoriM
I have to tell you a quicky..
Laura
k
LoriM
I was thinking about the secret...
CarolynB
manifest a little thing and get back to us
LoriM
and I have been readiong POs
CarolynB
Power of the Soul
LoriM
and I decided to start writing again...
CarolynB
oooo
LoriM
we were at B&N
Theresa W
Great Book Just finished it
LoriM
and I had just said to someone on the phone
that I hoped I could make it enjoyable and readable
when I bumped into the book marks...
one fell off and I picked it up and read it...
it said “ Believe in the reality of your dreams” by Roosevelt.
CarolynB
ooo I hope you bought it!
awesome!
LoriM
I bought the book mark
LoriM
lol
Laura
lol
Theresa W
No she ripped it of it was a bookmark
can’t spell ....off
Leighski
its the little things that keep us going lol
LoriM
lol
Laura
lol
CarolynB
yes ...
LoriM
It was just a cool litte synchronicity.
Paula Mae
yes it was lol
CarolynB
and the little things become big things when we let them
both good and bad
lol
Leighski
love those
Paula Mae
I love those kind
CarolynB
very cool synchronicity
Theresa W
Thank you for a POWERFUL evening...Lets talk again. From the new kid
CarolynB
Thank you all so much for coming tonight
and sharing
LoriM
Awsome Carolyn! Thanks so much!
Paula Mae
thanks for doing it
CarolynB
We will ... next week’s chat is cancelled but we’ll be here again in 2 weeks
Paula Mae
with our stories
CarolynB
anytime ... I enjoy researching and learning for myself
sharing is the bonus :)
LoriM
We will meet you here! Same place... same bat time! :)