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Laura
05-15-2007, 09:39 AM
:hearts: Got this in an email. Some great points:

Choice gives you power. When you recognize that you get to choose everything about your future, you will gain enormous power over your life. But so many people will never take that step - never acknowledge that they are the architects of their life. It's much too easy to just blame someone or something else for their apparent inability to become a success.

Successful people aren't that way by accident. They didn't just happen to fall into it. They chose it.

If you knew, truly knew, that the only thing standing between you and that audacious dream of yours was your willingness to choose, you would stop all the complaining and sobbing and hanging on to your story about why it's all just so difficult, and you'd get on with the business of being successful.

Successful people are not the ones telling you how hard it is, are they?
The ones telling you it can't be done are those who aren't doing it. They are attached to their identity as a person who struggles, who carries on in the face of insurmountable odds, who take on too much and crumple under the pressure because they are addicted to the attention they get for the struggle.

~You can choose today, right now, to let all that go.
~You can choose to stop seeking credit for all you've been through and start seeking the personal satisfaction that only comes with accomplishment.
~You can choose to stop wallowing in your need to be validated for your suffering.
~You can choose to release your white-knuckled grip on your need for sympathy and validation from others and start doing the things successful people do.
They choose a goal.
They determine what it will take to reach that goal.
Then they go do that.

They do not wait for permission. They do not look for affirmation from others. They don't waste their time allowing drama to infect their life. And they do not seek credit for trying.

You can be enormously, abundantly successful or you can be a martyr but you can't do both. Choose wisely.

Stephanie
05-15-2007, 11:14 AM
Thank you Laura for this. :hearts:

The timing couldn't be more perfect. I have a friend who is upset with the success that I seem to have. (It's not that big of a deal for me, because I worked for it, and now I'm happy for the first time in a while.) And when I try to tell her she needs to work to get what she wants, she just clams back up, and claims there aren't enough time and money in the world for her to be happy, and she'll just go back to being a shut in. It drives me nuts when she brings that mentality into our conversations. Apparently, she has made her choice for the time being. :hmm:

Firefly
05-22-2007, 03:41 PM
Hello All,

This is my first time posting in this community, so it is nice to meet you. Thank you for welcoming me!
Like you, Stephanie, I have people in my life that can really distract me from my outlook on life. My closest older sister, and a co-worker. Both seem to feel some sort of threat from anyone else who practices affirmative prayer, a feeling of abundance, or anything else that creates joy in life. However, I have come to accept that I have no control over how anyone else responds to life, but I can control how I respond to them.
Congratulations on your success:dance:
Firefly

Laura
05-22-2007, 05:00 PM
Hi Firefly!
:wave: Welcome to the community! I think it is John Holland who says something like, "Why think negatively when there are others to do it for you?" Makes sense to me.;)

Be sure to introduce yourself at the "Guest Desk" under "Main Community". We look forward to hearing more from you!

Lots of blessings,
Laura

CarolynB
05-22-2007, 05:45 PM
:wave: Welcome Firefly! Good to have you here.:clap:

Amanda
05-22-2007, 10:50 PM
You can be enormously, abundantly successful or you can be a martyr but you can't do both. Choose wisely.

Whoa. Thanks for this post Laura. It's all very eye opening but particularly that last sentence was like a smack in the forehead for me.



Bless you. :angel: