June 5, 2008 at 1:43 am #122034
To all Friends who contributed to THE BOOK!!
You’ve been overdue for a report on the ADC book. I’ve delayed for what I hope you’ll feel are good reasons.
As most of you know, my agent asked to see the book, liked it and said she’d do what agents do, try to find a publisher. She received two rejections, one of which mentioned having a problem with all the different writing styles. That was always a possibility, but I felt and still feel that it was important that the readers hear the voices of regular folks who had experienced the miracle of after death communication. I gave my agent a couple of more months, then decided to request that she turn it back over to me. The metaphysical arena is foreign territory to her and I got the impression that she felt she wasn’t the best person to try to market it.
In the interim, an idea had occurred to me that wouldn’t go away. Finally I acted on it. I asked Mary Jo McCabe and her son, Bhrett McCabe, if they’d be willing to contribute forewords to the book. I’ve had several readings with Mary Jo and can’t praise her highly enough. Talk about receiving messages and advice from the ether courtesy of a warm, caring tell-it-like-it-is old friend and that’s what a session with Mary Jo is like. Her son, Bhrett, is a clinical psychologist as well as a member of our FriendsCommunities. I thought their viewpoints on ADC would be both informative and invaluable. I held my breath, a waste of perfectly good oxygen, since both Mary Jo and Bhrett agreed immediately. They have seen the book and their enthusiasm and praise for it almost reduced me to tears. Their reaction is that a book written by and containing experiences by regular folks is sorely needed and will touch many hearts.
I told them up front that any suggestions would be welcome and meant it. I started this project in 2005, determined and confident that it would eventually be published. If that means more work to make it an even better book, so be it. They have indeed made suggestions and they all involve YOU, if you contributed a narrative. You know who you are.:D
Bhrett especially feels that it is important that readers are not left with questions about: 1) how the ADC event made you feel at the time; 2) whether you feel there was anything important about the timing of it — were you still grieving when it happened or did it occur at some critical point in your life; 3) what if any impact it had on the grieving process, your life, and your beliefs; 4) whether or not you were able to share it with family and close friends and whether or not they received any benefit from it and; 5) whether it has made a difference in your memory of the departed.
Don’t let the list of questions throw you. Not all of them may apply to you. But I would appreciate your thinking about them and responding. You opened your heart once. I’m asking that you do it again. Don’t worry about length or quality of writing or anything else. Because of the way these will be used, I’ll probably rewrite them. I will be consolidating them and weaving them into introductions or follow-ups and inserting them where appropriate. It is possible that Mary Jo and Bhrett will also contribute their input throughout the book. That will give an invaluable weight to our efforts. I can’t express how excited I am about this without foaming at the mouth.
I know this has been a long wait for all of you, and I’m sorry to ask you to do more. But this book isn’t just for us, it’s for all those people out there who may have been in our shoes and, like us, have kept it to themselves thinking no one would ever believe us, or dismiss us as candidates for the nearest mental facility. It’s for all those who may have been on the receiving end of an after death communication, but aren’t sure, or who don’t dare to hope it was real. This is one of those instances when we can make a difference. So let’s got for it.
As before, please send what you write to me at FriendsADC@aol.com with a second copy to me at ChassieLWest@hotmail.com. AOL crashed a couple of times during the first round of collecting ADCs and I’m not chancing that happening again.
You have my eternal thanks. I’ll be waiting to hear from you. If you’d feel better having a deadline, let’s make it July 15, 2008. Please don’t make me have to track you down!:cuss:
P.S. If you haven’t heard The Psychic and the Doc, Bhrett’s and Mary Jo’s radio show on Saturday nights, take a listen at http://www.thepsychicandthedoc.com from 8-11pm CST. It’s a real treat.
:hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts::hearts:June 6, 2008 at 12:26 am #122036LeighskiParticipant
Consider it done!! Those are all very good questions which will require some thought….but i’m on it:D
I feel very blessed to be part of this wonderful gem of a book:hearts:
Leigh:love:July 9, 2008 at 2:28 pm #122187mumandtwinsParticipant
Sorry Chassie with everything going on here at the moment I will have to pull my finger out and get the questions off to you. sorry for being such a slacker
GenieneJuly 10, 2008 at 2:01 am #122188LeighskiParticipantLeighski;139204 wrote:Consider it done!! :hearts:
Oh My i am eating those words right now. You not the only slacker here :oJuly 10, 2008 at 3:13 am #122190
I haven’t wanted to bug you guys, but…. I’m sorta stuck until I get your responses to Bhrett’s questions. It didn’t occur to me to suggest a deadline, which was a bi-i-ig mistake. I’m composing a second letter to take care of that. I’ll also take this opportunity to ask that you send them to me by July 31st. As usual, send them to FriendsADC@aol.com, with a copy to CHASSIELWEST@HOTMAIL.COM, just in case AOL hiccups again. And thanks.
P.S. Just in case you’ve forgotten the questions:
1) how the ADC event made you feel at the time;
2) whether you feel there was anything important about the timing of it — were you still grieving when it happened or did it occur at some critical point in your life;
3) what if any impact it had on the grieving process, your life, and your beliefs;
4) whether or not you were able to share it with family and close friends and whether or not they received any benefit from it and;
5) whether it has made a difference in your memory of the departed.July 10, 2008 at 3:28 am #122191StephanieParticipant
Actually I think you did include a deadline in the first letter….I have circled July 15th and I put your name there, unless there’s something else going on that day. ;) Who knows…I’m so forgetful now a days.
I’m working on mine this coming Saturday. Enjoy the rest of your week!!
~StephanieJuly 11, 2008 at 1:36 am #122192
I guess forgetting that I included a deadline qualifies as a senior moment – no, make that a senior hour. Considering how few responses I’ve received, it’s just as well I’m extending the deadline. Thanks for the reminder. I look forward to receiving your answers.
Chassie:redface3:September 6, 2008 at 2:58 am #122437riley90Participant
Maybe I should give up on my book. I started it three weeks ago and am only up to chapter three. All I have is experiences from friends, family, and myself. None from a website.
I understand the challenge of writing a complete book. My first book was published when I was 21. 20 years later my husband published his first of many. His was tough to publish as he needed signed releases from people he knew during Vietnam and other areas of his life.
I wish you all the luck in the world putting it all together.:clap:July 3, 2009 at 7:35 pm #123214OwningFireParticipant
I just wondered if there had been any news? Inquiring minds, and all that, y’know?
Crossing my fingers here,
:oJuly 4, 2009 at 3:04 am #123217
The book is done, new forewords from Mary Jo and Dr. Bhrett McCabe and I should be sending query letters to various publishers next week. When I said this would take a long time, I had no idea I meant four years!!! At any rate, it’s ready to see if there’s any interest out there. Burn some candles, cross your fingers, throw in a few prayers. We’ll need all the luck we can get!
Chassie:hearts::dance::hearts:July 4, 2009 at 10:51 am #123218Paula MaeParticipant
Who needs luck! Those on the otherside will help make it happen, theres no stopping it from being published!July 4, 2009 at 2:03 pm #123219OwningFireParticipant
Thanks for the reply.
That’s some gestation, for sure. Candles, energies, prayers etc flying.
But I think maybe Paula Mae has a point – those on the other side may get their fingers in this pie, too, bless ’em.
hugs to all,
NanJuly 4, 2009 at 2:56 pm #123220JeannieParticipant
:dance:Let us know when it’s out there – I will be first in line to buy it.:hearts:
:rosary::rosary::rosary:July 5, 2009 at 3:22 am #123221
Jeannie, honey, you will be SECOND. Right behind me!
Thank you all for the good words!!
Chassie:hearts:July 5, 2009 at 10:33 pm #123222bhrettParticipant
This is a great book and it was definitely a pleasure for me and mom to work with Chassie. It is always touching to read stories and to hear from others on how they share their experiences
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