May 19, 2011 at 4:00 pm #68089HiddendepthsParticipant
Hey everyone :)
Basically over the years my moods have been so up and down, and i’ve noticed as i’ve got older the down periods are getting more frequent and lasting longer, and have to admit as of late have been feeling so angry and lost…
I’ve been trying to deal with what could be causing it, but haven’t had any luck and feel as if im going to be like this for the rest of my life, which i really don’t want to have to deal with, so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on what i could try to help me through the tougher times? It feels like at the moment everything is going against me, and I so badly want to change it. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
RegardsMay 21, 2011 at 10:14 pm #123632Fred RParticipant
It’s been my experience that we suffer anger and feel down and lost when we feel that we have been denied something, that something we very much want has been taken from us or we are unable to acquire it.
My suggestion is that you think about what you feel is missing or been taken from your life, what you want but can’t have. It may take a while, and you may have to “dig deep” to find the answer. But once you find what missing or denied, decide how important it is to you: Do you truly need it or is it something you think you need to have? Why is it so important to you? Be brutily honest with yourself Once we look at things in the cold light of honest evaluation, things we thought important can sometimes seem of little true importance and possibly trivial.
And there may be things that you wish you had or hadn’t done, things not said when they should have been, or things said that hurt someone and now you can’t atone for what you said; “unfinished business” with those who have passed away. These sit in the background, making us wish we had done different–and we may not realize they are there because we have repressed them to alleviate the pain.
With each source of angst and discomfort you find, ask yourself: “What can I do about the situation?” If you can’t change anything (e.g., make amends for something you said or did to someone who has since passed away), then suffering the angst can be a waste of time and emotional energy. Learn to forgive yourself and learn to forgive others. I’ve been told it doesn’t help to worry situations over which we have no control and can’t change; just be prepared for what may happen.
If someone “did you wrong” and you’re holding a grudge after all these years, that grudge acts as an acid inside you, eating away at your emotional and spiritual well-being. And if that someone doesn’t know about your grudge or doesn’t care about it, then you are the only person suffering. ‘Tis far better to forgive them and move on with your life.
In essence, strive to get rid your self of the emotional baggage that is affecting you adversely.
Finally, ask for God’s guidance and help in evaluating your mood swings and dour feelings and for His help in taking that actions needed.
May God bless you, and may you be in much better condition soon.
P.S.: A favorite saying of mine which may apply: “Of the chains that bind us, the strongest are those we put upon ourselves.”
May 22, 2011 at 7:48 pm #123633HiddendepthsParticipant
Thank you for replying,
I’ve tried so many times to get to the root of what makes me feel so down at times, but have had no luck what so ever, i’m at a complete loss with myself, i’ve been to doctors and talked to people to try and resolve what could be causing it, but still no luck, I just feel so empty inside, and am at the point of breaking, and i hate to admit that, i honestly don’t know what to do, all i know is something has got to give soon :( as much as i try to think positive and dig deep to try and really know who i am, I just can’t get past what ever it is, and its really effecting my relationships with people close to me and im so afraid as i know im pushing people away, yet i can’t seem to stop myselfMay 30, 2011 at 1:15 am #123634JeannieParticipant
I am so sorry that you have been having such as difficult time. I don’t know what you have tried in the past. I do know that depression and anger can be very debilitating.
I can only tell you what has worked for me and people that I know. Professional therapy can be very helpful. Even past life regression or hypno therapy may be helpful. I have found books and CDs by Louise Hay and Wayne Dyer to be helpful. Some find that they have a chemical imbalance that requires medications. I have a family member that used a combination of meds, therapy, and physical activity helpful. Physical exercise (even just walking) releases endorphins that make you feel better. I don’t know if any of this is helpful at all, but if you just need someone to talk to, I could meet you in chat from time to time.
Good luck and blessings to you
Jeannie:rosary:July 5, 2011 at 3:51 am #123640carolwaltmanParticipant
If this is coming on more and more you may need to talk to a doctor to see if it is the regular blues or something more serious. We all feel the the blues sometimes and even rejected by our children. It can be hard getting to the roots of it:tissue:
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