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    We all know that John Edward believes in and teaches us to pray for our loved ones who have passed. And being a Catholic as John is, I know the power and peace of reciting the rosary.

    But I would like to ask you all, whatever your religion or belief system, what prayer do you like to say in honor of your loved ones, or when you want to send a prayer to them to support them on the other side?

    I usually say a Hail Mary, but it somehow seems weak to me. Maybe that’s not the correct word to describe my feelings. It’s just
    that sometimes I feel incomplete when I say this prayer. Sometimes I just think of my loved ones and surround them in a pink light. Is that a prayer?

    Is just sending a loving smile, when remembering a happy time with them when they were alive…well, is that a prayer?

    Do you have special words that you repeat every so often that you would consider a prayer?

    Has anyone ever heard John talk specifically about which kinds of prayers help our loved ones most of all?

    I would welcome your feedback on these questions.



    Dear Irish. What a great question! Its one that I think about often. I am a catholic like John but I have a difficult time saying the rosary. Not that its a bad thing, its just that I don’t feel the connection that I want. So here’s what I do….I sit with my eyes closed and picture the person that I am praying about. I ask God to surround this person with the light of love and protection and ask that they bee filled with the Spirit of God. I then ask whatever I want for that person i.e. health, protection,happiness, reward etc. Then I say my thank yous and ask that whatever is the best for all concerned be done. I usually add, “Your will, not mine.” This may sound hokey but it seems to have worked for me for the past 10 years. It has given me great comfort in times of need.
    Hope you find what is best for you.




    i believe we all have our own way sending a prayer to our loved ones. John uses the rosary. that is his tool in his belief system and in his work to make connections.

    i think that it really doesnt matter how you pray, from a simple hail mary to the entire rosary (i’m catholic so i used my referances, sorry) you should do what is right for you and what you feel comfortable with. dont think that just because you are saying a small prayer as apposed to a long one makes a differance.

    IT ALL COME FROM THE SAME PLACE, YOUR HEART and that is what matters most. you say it out of love and even if it’s smile during the day just because you thought of them; realize they know everything you’ve done to keep them with you.

    the smallest angel makes the biggest impression
    the smallest prayer is heard the loudest.

    keep the faith.:angel2:


    For me, every prayer for an individual is unique to their situation. I actually strive to make them informal – aiming for something the good Lord would recognize as coming from me.
    Of course, if I run across a written prayer that perfectly describes what my heart feels, I’ll use it, but that’s not my norm.


    Irish ~ welcome to the board and great question. Gosh I pray so second nature that I did not give it much thought. I do pray a lot for the white light of protection to surround the individual. I also pray to Mother Mary and the Arch Angel Micheal for protection and healing. I was raised catholic so I pray to the saints as well.
    I read a book once titled ” Prison to Praise ” and it talked about how you need to be thankful and greatful for how things are in your life or in an individuals life and that they have a purpose for what they are going through. I have found that by sending this out in a prayer has helped me move through concerns and worries about my dear friends and relatives.
    When I see a dead animal on the road I pray for their soul and when I see an accident I pray for them to be safe and healthy. Gosh when I think about it I try to send good energy a lot. I think that is the key, if you are sending wonderful energy when you pray, if that is your intent I do not think you can go wrong.



    Well, I am also Catholic, and prayer for me usually takes the form of a looooong conversation with a good friend. Just taking some quiet time to really express my concerns, my fears, what I’m grateful for etc. It makes me feel like I have a personal relationship with God. Also, I try to incorporate prayer in my day. (eg, if I’m stuck in traffic, instead of getting annoyed, I say a prayer for the safety of all those on the roads).

    I’ve always believed that it doesn’t matter how we pray, as long as we’re praying for the right reasons :)


    Hi Irish!

    Thanks for the great question. I haven’t really thought about how I pray, but having been raised Catholic, I used to say all of the prepared prayers, including the rosary while meditating on the “Mysteries.” These days, while I say an occasional “Hail Mary” or “Memorare,” most of the time I use the white light when asking for protection for me or family. I also just talk to God, asking for blessings on those who may need it, or for those about whom I am concerned. Recently, while I was going through a difficult time, I prayed to St. Therese, The Little Flower, who is one of my patron saints. It had been many years since I had done this, and it was very good for me. I always remember to thank all of them for the blessings in my life.

    Thanks again for asking about this.

    Gay :musicnote


    :musicnote Hmmm… interesting to see the responses on this. You have all given such great examples of types of prayer.

    For me, growing up Catholic, I never “got” the rosary. It took to long and I was too impatient. When I do pray, I find myself saying a few Act of Contritions, Hail Marys, Our Fathers – an abbreviated take on the rosary! LOL

    I find that meditation and surrounding everything I see in my mind’s eye with the light of God helps to raise my vibration best.

    Ciao for now and remember, the nxt time you ladies say Amen – say Awomen instead!



    Here is what prompted me to start this thread. I was thinking about my friend’s daughter who is battling cancer right now. That led me to think about my friend herself, who died two years ago last November. Now, when I think about Sallie, my friend’s daughter, I automatically surround her in light and wish her well. That part feels natural to me,so I “feel” it working.

    But when I think about Dusty, Sallie’s mother who was one of my closest friends who loved Astrology, and metaphysics in general…I want to send her prayers…you know, the way John says that those on the other side want and need our prayers. But when I say my Hail Mary’s, it just doesn’t cut it. I feel nothing,
    I know there’s a better way. Surrounding Dusty in a white light seems redundant to me…she’s dead and she IS the light of pure energy.What are the words that would do her soul the most good? Are my smiles when I think of some of the crazy things she and I used to do together a prayer? Or is she better served by saying in my mind when I think of her, “Bless you, Dusty.Be happy. I miss you!” Is that a prayer? I am asking here, specifically,
    what exact words do you use… to “pray” for someone you know and love who has died… that deeply resonate back to you when you say them, telling you that a “prayer” has been sent, because you feel it deep inside yourself?

    Now, I know that there are as many ways to say things as there are people who have loved and lost loved ones. But reading the different ways you all have of doing it would be a learning experience for me. And one I thank you for sharing.


    It would be very interesting to see what percentage of members here are Roman Catholic!!!


    Yes! Yes! Your smiles when you reflect about the good times with her are a prayer – I view prayer as a tool to raise your own vibration level and that of the one intended – whatever feels right to you is what is right.




    Again, your questions are thought provoking. I just looked in an abridged, small dictionary for the word, “pray.” The definition given is “to entreat; implore; to ask earnestly for; supplicate for.” I mostly think of prayer as a kind of “asking for something,” whether it is blessings for another, guidance, or protection. But I also consider being thankful for my blessings as prayers to complement my “requests.” When I talk to my family or friends who have crossed, I personally don’t think of this as prayer, but rather as communication. Is this prayer? I don’t know. As for wishing to know exact words, I don’t think there are any. When you talk to Dusty, I think you are loving and sharing with this person who is still part of your life, but just in a different way. If you ask her to “be happy,” this seems like an entreaty or prayer for her. I would love to read what others think about this – perhaps from those who have given more thought to prayer than I have.



    Am I glad you posted this definition of prayer. I am agnostic or whatever you want to categorize me as. I always hesitated to use the word prayer because I though it implied religious context and God.
    Now, I understand that I have been praying all my life, just in my own way. Good, I didn’t really have a good word for my asking, wishing, communicating. Now, I do: prayer. Thanks:)
    Wilma ~~panta rhei~~


    As a Catholic, whenever I used to pray at night, I felt as if I needed to hire a few Holy Monks to come into my room and start doing chants, a choir to sing praises, the best, and most popular, repetitive prayers on the planet, and a harp, in order to be assured that God was hearing me.

    From how I grew up, I associated prayer with being a very sacred, serious, and quiet thing that we did to kneel before God and close our eyes in pews, etc. but after a while it just didn;t seem comfortable to me. I was saying the same prayers over and over again day after day. I ha memorized every line and I would often find myself rushing through them, not even paying attention to the words.

    An event in my life last year just toally made e look at things in a new light. I said to myself, if I am going to pray to God, if it is going to be this intimate little thing, then why on Earth can’t I o it the way I want?

    Today, I find myself much more comfortable saying what comes from my heart, either out loud, or in my head. I express my emotions, my worries, and my hopes to God, and ask for him to guide me through them. Another poster mentioned it’s like having a conversation with God. That’s really how I would describe it as well. I’m really speaking to him, but the best part is, I know what I am saying. I’m not reading out of abook of prayers dated back to the sixteenth century with all of these fancy words I don’t understand. It is the way I feel it should be, and when I’m done with them, I feel much better. It’s as if I have released all of my problems of the day into God’s hands, knowing it will all be handled in good light.

    I think of it this way. Many people pray to God and complain when they “don’t get any answers”. I would suggest praying from the heart, in your own words, no strings attached. When we understand what it is we’re asking God for, it is only then that we can understand the answers he gives us.

    :jumper: <---- He's probably not appropriate for the discussion here, but I just realized I haven't used him yet, and I just couldn't resist! All the best

    Linda Baldwin

    FYI: I’m also a Catholic.

    I pray a lot of different ways which mostly is just talking to God or a loved one who has passed like a regular conversation. I also pray the rosary.

    Usually once a day (usually in the little girls room), I turn inward and start a prayer by saying: “Thank you Lord for sharing this day with me. I am grateful for the breath I breathe and the opportunity to live through you one minute at a time. Please look after my father today. Help lift his spirits. Send him a couple extra angels to make sure he doesn’t fall from his wheelchair.

    May my family in spirit know that I love each and every one of you. I feel your presence and know that I am loved in return. I can’t wait for the day we are reunited and I know that you are with me every step of my physical experience. I acknowledge your guidance and strength when my own is waning. May you be lifted up in the Lord’s house and feel my heart beating in time with your own. We will never be apart. Thy will be done. In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost.. Amen.



    Linda, what beautiful words! I love what you said –


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