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    CarolynB
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    Caution: This chat transcipt contains mature subject matter. Minor editing from the original chat was undertaken.

    LoriM
    Tonight’s discussion is on Heart or Spirit Centered Sexuality – To start let me tell you the definitions of these words as defined by American Heritage Dictionary.


    Heart – the center of the total personality, esp. with reference to intuition, feeling, or emotion; the center of emotion, esp. as contrasted to the head as the center of the intellect; capacity for sympathy; feeling; affection; the innermost or central part of anything, and my favorite – spirit, courage, or enthusiasm.


    Spirit – The vital principle or animating force within living beings; Incorporeal consciousness. The part of a human associated with the mind, will, and feelings. The essential nature of a person or group. An inclination or tendency of a specified kind. A causative, activating, or essential principle: The soul, considered as departing from the body of a person at death.

    Centered – A point or place that is equally distant from the sides or outer boundaries of something; the middle. Sexuality: the quality or state of being sexual; the condition of having sex; sexual activity; expression of sexual receptivity


    So what does that mean? It means it is a place that as humans we crave to aspire to on all levels. It means that Heart or spirit centered sexuality is a place where the mind, body, and spirit meet to engage in an experience that encompasses the very essence of who we are. It is a place where the very essence of our consciousness meets the physical need of our sexual expression.

    Leighski
    :D

    LoriM
    This is a concept that most of western civilization has overlooked, mostly preferring to look at the anatomy only of the human body… Where as eastern civilization tends to look beyond. The Western view of anatomy encompasses systems of the body that we can see: the skeletal system, muscular system, nervous system, etc. Eastern medicine (i.e. Ayurveda, Chinese medicine) teaches that a subtle body also pervades our anatomy.


    The subtle body is the basic understanding of anatomy and the subtle energies that influence the body. The most important aspect of the subtle body is the system of energy centers, known as chakras. The subtle body also contains several hundred thousand energy channels, called nadis. There are three principle subtle channels, the sushumna (central), the ida (left channel) and pingala (right channel). The subtle body can also be equated with Erotic energy.


    The following is an exerpt from a wonderful article on OfSpirit.com Erotic energy is far more than sexual energy. It is life energy. As our culture has evolved splits between mind and body, head and heart, heart and pelvis and sexuality and spirituality, we have forgotten what it means to be fully alive.


    “Erotic energy is not just about having sex,” continues Blackburn, “It is about living.” As we have become disconnected from our bodies, hearts, souls, spirits, one another and the divine, we have lost touch with many of the most beautiful pleasures and experiences possible in being human. So many people today are searching for meaning and purpose, most often expressed through job dissatisfaction, addictions and broken or troubled relationships.


    The rise of industrialization, urbanization, the nation-state, global dislocations, war and poverty all contribute to the sex-spirit split for us both individually and collectively.


    Because our culture has repressed sexuality so much, it is repressing everything,” acknowledges Blackburn. “People who have repressed sexuality have also repressed other areas of their lives. If you are not joyful about your sexuality, it is hard to be joyful about watching a sunset or watching kittens play. Hopefully, by breathing life into one, you breathe life into all of it. It’s like giving birth.


    . When the baby comes out of the birth canal and takes a breath, the baby pinks up. When we open up, breathe deeply, have fun, when we dance, we pink up.” This backdrop provides fertile soil for an emerging movement working to integrate sexuality and spirituality.


    are you with me so far?

    CarolynB
    :up:


    yup

    Leighski
    yupper

    LoriM
    cool

    Jeannie
    you bet

    LoriM
    Many trainings, practices, networks and methods have evolved to help people learn to work with sexual, spiritual and life energies in their bodies, relationships and lives. These methods have been developed by visionaries who have built a community or network of people around them. There is some cross-fertilization between these communities, but more often the right hand doesn’t even know there is a left hand yet, never mind what it is doing.


    One of the common threads amongst the many approaches is the creation of a safe, sacred community circle. Joining together in holy ritual is a basic human need. We are starving for this kind of sacred circle. Trainings and workshops such as those profiled below provide help meet this need. I have selected a handful of significant programs in the sexuality and spirituality field, all of which have evolved over the past several decades. The purpose is to illustrate a range of what is available.


    Existing practices and trainings approach integrating sexuality and spirituality from many different directions. For example, the Human Awareness Institute approaches this work from an emotional and interpersonal direction, giving people skills for deeper intimacy and connection through its Love, Intimacy and Sexuality workshops. Tantric work, on the other hand, approaches the body and its energy field from a rootedness in spiritual philosophy. Sterling community work focuses on


    distinguishing the differences between male and female energy.


    Sterling community has some really good workshops available for just this….I will give you the link a little later.

    CarolynB
    :up:

    Jeannie
    interesting!

    LoriM
    One part of this movement is called Tantric Joy. Tantra is a spiritual path for integrating body, mind and soul. It differs from other paths in its honoring of the body, using the senses, sexuality, and feelings to help you evolve spiritually.


    Tantra assists you in realizing your full potential as a human being. They say that If you choose to live from the Tantric perspective, you will transform your life. You will discover bliss. You may apply Tantric practices and principles to many areas of life – to relationship and sexual loving, spiritual practice and lifestyle, physical and emotional well-being.

    Jeannie
    It is reminding me of some things I read in the book (not the movie) the diVinci code

    LoriM
    really… like what? It has been so long since I read that.

    Jeannie
    one line described male orgasm if done in the right frame of mind as at that moment he is looking into the eyes or God

    LoriM
    The benefits of Tantric practice include: * Transcendent sexuality * Deepened relationships * Emotional freedom

    Jeannie
    there was more

    LoriM
    yes!


    that is exactly what this is eluding to on some levels.


    * Expanded intuitive abilities * Sustained health and vitality * Boundless love * and Playful, ecstatic awareness


    I will discuss briefly some of the aspects of how Kundalini, the Chakras , and how the subtle body all play a part in Heart centered sexuality and the use of Tantra.


    Most of the information presented here can be found at: http://www.tantricjoy.com/about_tantra.html

    CarolynB
    Gee where did you find that website?

    LoriM
    and at http://www.ofspirit.com/lindamarks23.htm


    lol

    Leighski
    i put that one in fav’s:up:

    LoriM
    Yes… thank you carolyn… she was my lifesaver this week.!

    CarolynB
    :red:

    LoriM
    I had no idea where to start… and she saved my butt!


    No lie there. :) BIG SMOOCHIES TO CAROLYN. :kiss:

    Leighski
    who?

    Jeannie
    :kiss:

    Leighski
    oh gotcha

    CarolynB
    awww


    anytime!

    LoriM
    The practices and rituals of Tantra, both spiritual and sexual, work to create the conditions necessary for love to flourish and endure. When we achieve states of presence, energy flow, relaxation, harmony, and connection, love emerges and opens the heart. To bring about the conditions that generate and sustain love, we can learn to rely upon Tantric practices to create more of these positive energy states. Tantra, therefore, is not just something to do in our bedrooms, but rather a complete way


    Cultivating states of presence, energy flow, relaxation, harmony, and connection is not always easy. A lifetime of hurts and other negative experiences have gradually limited our ability to be present and to express the essence of who we really are, fully and freely. We slowly become cut off from our feelings and the ability to experience our sexual creative energy in a connected, joyful, loving way.


    In a subtle, gentle, yet powerful way, Tantric loving brings healing. It breaks up and washes away residues of our past that hold us back from limitless love and intimacy. Tantra teaches us not only how to be great lovers, but how to be great healers for one another as well.


    Tantra represents a unique paradigm for conscious living and loving. It offers a passionate and expansive way of life for those seeking to connect with their sexuality in a positive, heart-centered way, a way that celebrates freedom of spirit and body alike.


    Tantra is a spiritual teaching and philosophy that originated in India well over 2000 years ago. It is still relevant today. It originated in ancient Vedic times, in matriarchal cultures such as that of the Indus Valley, and in practices revolving around the worship of the Goddess.


    The essence of Tantra has taken many forms of expression and appears in virtually every culture in history, e.g., Chinese Taoist Tantra, Native American Quodoshka.


    Tantra is a timeless phenomenon as well as a global one. Even today in the West it satisfies many of our most essential needs: love, connection, intimacy, play, harmony and balance, inspiration, relaxation, celebration, physical and emotional well-being, sexual and spiritual fulfillment.


    Tantra comes from the ancient Sanskrit words tanoti which means “to expand” and trayati which means “liberation.” This implies that you can be liberated by expanding your consciousness.


    Another definition of the word Tantra is “web” or “to weave.” Tantra is an interweaving of the energies of many levels of consciousness from the mundane, to the most erotic, to the most profound. “Tantra” also signifies scripture that contains Tantric spiritual teachings.

    CarolynB
    hmmmm

    LoriM
    yes?

    CarolynB
    nothing … just observing


    the weaving


    a function that Virgos appreciate

    LoriM
    interesting huh?

    CarolynB
    lol

    LoriM
    Tantra Yoga Like other Yogic traditions, Tantra Yoga uses the tools of meditation (dhyana), conscious breathing (pranayama), physical gestures (mudra), sacred sounds (mantra), sacred geometry (yantra), body positions (asana), muscular contractions (bandhas) to achieve self-transformation, conscious awakening, and spiritual evolution. Tantra is generally divided into two main streams: Red Tantra and White Tantra.


    White Tantra or Tantra of the Right Hand (Dakshina Marga) involves the meditative techniques of Tantra and is essentailly a celibate, ascetic path. Red Tantra or Tantra of the Left Hand (Vama Marga) involves the use of elements that were considered taboo, such as the ritual of sexual union (maithuna), as a means of attaining liberation. Here, sexual union is used as means for going beyond into transcendent states of consciousness.


    “Pink” Tantra strikes the middle ground between the two paths, harmoniously joining the practical and esoteric elements of both orientations. This focus is on the heart energy using tantric techniques for attaining self-knowledge, spiritual evolution, and self-realization. The work has incredible value for single people and couples alike.


    Tantra reveres The Goddess. In ancient times, The Goddess was worshiped as the embodiment of eroticism and the source of all creation. Every woman was seen as Shakti – The Goddess incarnate. Each woman is a Shakti. Shakti is the Hindu Goddess, or archetype, of the divine feminine


    Shakti also refers to a particular quality of energy that is feminine and rises upwards in the body, such as earth energy or sexual energy. It was worshipped in ancient India as the primal energy that created the cosmos. Shakti, or sexual energy, is creative life-force energy.


    Re-awakening the Goddess is central to modern Tantra. Although both the masculine and the feminine energies are equally important, the extra focus on the feminine is necessary in order to counterbalance the predominant masculine energy of our present culture. Daily life in this busy world does not encourage women or men to recognize or acknowledge the Goddess, but rekindling a woman’s sexual energy brings forth her Goddess nature.


    Tantric practices allow the Goddess in every woman to emerge. Both the woman and her partner benefit. The free flow of a woman’s sexual energy activates her shakti, creating an atmosphere for spiritual enlightenment. Her pleasure and desire for lovemaking will increase and may even surpass the pleasure potential and sexual desire of the man.


    In Tantra, reverently loving the Yoni and mastering *climax* are ways to honor the Goddess. I enjoy teaching these techniques and initiating those new to Tantra into the art of honoring the divine feminine.


    The main purpose of the tantric path is to activate Kundalini energy in the body. Those who achieve this awakening live in an ongoing state of bliss. Kundalini is the most powerful and refined energetic force available to us as human beings.


    The term means “she who is coiled” and is traditionally depicted as a serpent, coiled and sleeping at the base of the spine. When awakened, it begins to uncoil as it climbs up through the chakras to the crown. For thousands of years, the serpent has been used in many cultures to symbolize rising consciousness.


    A minimal flow of Kundalini exists in everyone already. It is the energy that animates the body and the physical senses and provides a base level of consciousness. As the flow increases, we begin to access higher realms of consciousness into the spiritual dimensions.


    Kundalini is activated by the energy of Shakti, or sexual energy. Shakti is generated through conscious lovemaking or specific yogic techniques designed to activate this energy. The tantric path sees sexual energy as an important expression of Kundalini.


    A full Kundalini awakening occurs only when a perfect balance of masculine and feminine exists in the body. Maintaining a balance between these energies is the essence of tantric practice.


    The most important aspect of the subtle body is the system of energy centers, known as chakras. The subtle body also contains several hundred thousand energy channels, called nadis. There are three principle subtle channels, the sushumna (central), the ida (left channel) and pingala (right channel). The subtle body is also called the energy body.


    If you have ever done yoga or received acupuncture, you have already experienced the awakening of your subtle body. As kundalini awakens, it rises up through the sushumna, moving through the main chakras of the subtle body. If there are energy blocks along this central energy “highway” the kundalini will not ascend through all of the chakras.


    A heightened awareness of your energy body translates to intensified levels of sensation and pleasure. When your energy body is awake, even the slightest touch may arouse great bliss. — I am all for Bliss!


    The chakras are concentrated vortices of energy within the subtle body, centers of consciousness. They are way-stations along the upward path of the Kundalini. Our bodies actually have many chakras, both big (e.g. at the crown of the head) and small (e.g. at the pads of our fingers). “The chakras” refer to the seven main chakras “situated” along the axis of the spine. All the chakras have the potential to become powerful erogenous zones!

    CarolynB
    :red:

    LoriM
    lol


    that’s a good thing! Go Bliss! B-L-I-S-S!

    Leighski
    lol

    CarolynB
    lol

    LoriM
    Although we cannot see or feel the chakras with our physical senses, they are evident in the shape of our physical bodies and in the way we think, feel, and handle life’s situations. Sometimes these energy centers become clogged or blocked due to negative experiences, physical pain, emotional traumas, social programming, cultural conditioning, limiting belief systems, or adverse life conditions.


    Blocks result in an incomplete or unbalanced experience of life and limit the expression of our own true life force energy. If you have ever experienced a “knot in your throat,” for example, due to holding back tearful emotional expression, then you have experienced a block in the 5th chakra. This block acts as a limit, restricting the full expression of your

    Jeannie
    ah

    LoriM
    inner world to the outer. Can you recall a time when you have experienced a “heavy heart,” a block in the 4th chakra? Grief, resulting from hurts to the heart, blocks the heart’s natural lightness and expansiveness; the heart becomes heavy and closed. A heavy heart prevents us from engaging in nourishing, loving relationships, and our life may feel incomplete as a result.


    Awakening and opening all of our chakras allow us to express ourselves as unique, whole, and fully-realized individuals. Tantric practice provides means to fully awaken and open the chakras, with particular emphasis on the second, fourth chakras and sixth chakras (sex, heart, and spirit), integral to our experience as expansive, joyful beings.


    If you are interested in learning more…. with the help of Carolyn… I fpund some really interesting sites that you might enjoy in addition to this chat….

    CarolynB
    LOL

    Leighski
    sure

    LoriM
    :kiss: The Human Awareness Institute: Restoring the Purity of Heart and Soul- http://www.hai.org Shalom Mountain Retreat Center: Sustaining Spiritual Growth and Intimacy= http://www.shalommountain.com


    Body Electric School: Learning About Erotic Energies http://www.bodyelectric.org Sterling Men’s and Women’s Weekends: Distinguishing Between Masculine and Feminine Energy- http://67.104.124.35/faqs.php The Boston Area Sexuality and Spirituality Network- http://boston.sexspirit.net/


    and last but not least is http://www.tantricjoy.com/resources.html#web

    Jeannie
    wow

    LoriM
    the last site has a directroy of sorts that has ton’s of info on it including meditations and products to make your tantric Joy experience a memorable one… hee hee.


    I hope you found tonights chat informational and entertaining.

    CarolynB
    thanks (((Lori)))


    wonderful job


    with a very delicate topic, lol

    Jeannie
    thank you Lori – you and crolyn put in a lot of work.

    Leighski
    thanks for all your research Lori and Carolyn

    CarolynB
    me? I just googled, lol

    Jeannie
    ((((Lori))))

    #116886
    CarolynB
    Moderator

    :redface3: I don’t know where my mind was but I almost inadvertantly posted this in the “Manifesting” folder! :angel:

    #116887
    Leighski
    Participant

    UR Funny Carolyn
    There is some really interesting links given in this chat …most definitely worth checkin out:thumbsup:

    Leighski

    #116891
    Jeannie
    Participant

    @carolynb 132796 wrote:

    :redface3: I don’t know where my mind was but I almost inadvertantly posted this in the “Manifesting” folder! :angel:

    not a bad thing to manifest.:D

    This was a great chat. Very good information.:thumbsup:

    #116895
    Laura
    Participant
    Jeannie;132801 wrote:
    not a bad thing to manifest.:D

    Amen!:D

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