July 14, 2008 at 12:53 am #67807tllParticipant
I am having trouble dealing with my sons death. It has been 3 1/2 months. I just can’t see my future with out him. I feel so sad and I don’t like the way I feel. I need some great words of encouragment.
tllJuly 14, 2008 at 1:47 am #122201chassiewesParticipant
There is no timetable for grief, no schedule that says you should be at this or that stage by such and such a date. Don’t beat yourself up for how you’re feeling. You’ve lost a son. You’re entitled.
It might help to meet others travelling the same difficult road that you are, parents dealing with the loss of a child. Compassionate Friends is one such group. Depending on where you live, there may be a chapter in your area. Go to http://www.compassionatefriends.com. Look it over. There are other groups of this sort as well, on-line groups, chat rooms, you name it. This Web site should point you in innumerable helpful directions. And don’t forget grief counselors, the pastor of your church or any church.
You might also get some comfort from a book by Sandy Goodman, Love Never Dies. It is one of the most moving accounts I’ve ever read, and proof positive that our loved ones are still with us. I have no children, so I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but this book is one I strongly recommend you find.
Also know that we here in the FriendsCommunities are always here for you. We’ve seen one another through a variety of crises, as well as triumphs. Others will chime in as they log on. The important thing is for you to know that you are not alone.
You have our thoughts, our sympathy and our prayers.
Chassie West:candle::candle::candle:July 14, 2008 at 4:15 pm #122202JeannieParticipant
I don’t have anymore suggestions to add to what Chassie said. I just want to say that I am truely sorry for your loss and pray that you will receive comfort and healing.:candle::candle: JeannieJuly 15, 2008 at 3:15 am #122203Pam BKeymaster
((((( tll ))))))
My dear, my thoughts, prayers and love are going out for and with you. I can’t even wrap my head around what you must be going through.
I also have not much that I can add that would match the comfort that I wish I could send you. For me to say that after 8 years of studying the subject of the after life and mediumship (i’m not a medium, I just like to learn about the process) and that I am 100% sure of the afterlife and that our loved ones are still with us, just in a different form doesn’t mean a hill of beans for you until you have your own experience with that. But I put it out there.
But I do know that your journey is not one of having to be alone. As Chassie says, Sandy Goodman is an excellent resource for someone who has walked a mile in your shoes, and has had that communication from her own son Jason on the Other Side.
http://loveneverdies.net/ is her website. She has a book, Love Never Dies (and I assure it doesn’t!) and she has a forum also, at http://www.loveneverdies4u.org, and there are many parents there that have children on the Other Side.
Of course, you are welcome to hang out here, and read the many testimonials that provide evidence that amounts to PROOF that your child is still with you.
Please let us know if you have any questions at all.
:musicnote:musicnote:musicnote:love:July 15, 2008 at 6:21 am #122204LeighskiParticipant
Its nice to meet you i wish it was under different circumstances though. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. I can’t tell you how much i agree with what everyone has said here one of the MOST important things i did for MYSELF was joining a support group. I honestly don’t know what i would have done without those people in my life the year following my daughters passing. When my daughter died it was so important for me to beable to talk about her often and remember what little time we did have with her. I found that became increasing difficult to do around my friends and some family it was just too painful for them so they pulled back not because they didn’t care but because they were hurting too. I came to understand that. This is where my support group help me so much in my grieving because i could talk about her and it wasn’t looked upon as being “unhealthy” My friends were concerned i wasn’t moving on and that i was stuck in my grief but that was the way “i grieved” and it helped me through the very darkest of days SO Please don’t let anyone tell you that you need to move on it takes time my dear and there is no time limit for grieving for your son so check out whats ava in your area for a support group And take care you are in my prayers:hearts:
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